Features of behavior of adolescents
Psychology / / August 12, 2017
Went in the morning subway to work, almost asleep.Suddenly I heard through the slumber as the car bursts into a crowd of laughing, probably, hard of hearing and so loudly speaking people.I raised my eyes: only two girls age 14-15.Their behavior and appearance completely deprived of sleep the morning the whole car.And no one in the car did he notes.No one wanted to get involved.
we like it, adults, or not - will always be teens, and their behavior is always puzzling, guard, and even annoy .Demonstrative behavior of teenagers - it is a challenge to the society, the search for self and the manifestation of his personality.As well as individuals are different, someone is singing obscene songs in the transitions, someone shaved bald, and some, on the contrary, as though in opposition, strongly involved in sports and studies.For the last many peers with suspicion and obvious disapproval.
man - there is a public, social, and all his life he has to look for their place in society, socialize .Throughout life we play many social roles.We, adults, both supervisors and subordinates, dads and husbands, wives and mothers, sisters and mistresses, homemakers and dobytchitsy, grandparents and travelers or poets.To succeed in all of these roles, you must be familiar primarily with itself.Here teenagers preparing for their emergency multirole life in society, and become familiar with them, and learn to know yourself.At the appropriate time and parental nerves.
inner "I" of a teenager is very fragile, in need of the protection of a powerful "We» .Therefore, teenagers often go astray in the group with the same interests, adopting a subculture group.This way of behave, and other attributes.Even the two companies from neighboring households will be different subculture.
seeker in his defenseless teenager uncertainty will join to the group which is most accurately reflect his attitude and worldview.So begins the search itself.During this period, parents should be as correct and sensitive in relation to their growing children, not suspended, but not annoying teenager.
can advance to make an effort and try to organize the younger child of the same interests with your preferred people.Do not wait until the bad, in your opinion, the company will automatically find it and begin to play a more significant and credible role in his life than you.
can recall examples from their youth, some "egregious" cases, find the "ridiculous" pictures.It is necessary to share your memories on the topic with the younger children.This way you can make it clear to your child that you understand it, that is familiar to you what is happening to him now.And most importantly, that all is as it should be!Such talks, if they are not imposed in the decision-making procedure, it brings together and both take you to the next level of communication.
What could be worse than unfulfilled desires?A friend of mine at the age of 12 years begged my mother to let pierce his ears.Mama categorically refused.The girl grew up a little bit, and no one is asking, pierced all that is possible.I most parents are not allowed to make a fashionable hairstyle, wanted me to go to a graduating class with sparse pigtail.At 13 I, at my request obkarnala best friend ...
can say, "What if he wants to try drugs?»
If you want, then try despite our ban.Another question is why the child wants?What he did not dopoluchaet from mom, dad, sister?
attention, love and freedom?
Or educated from an early age the need to reckon with the feelings and opinions of others?
largely "rebellion" teenager reflects the degree of pressure that was exerted on him the family and society throughout his short life, and allows you to assess the extent compensated thus indifference and rejection .
12 Aug, 2017
12 Aug, 2017