What do the attachment to toys
Psychology / / August 12, 2017
long-standing wisdom of English origin reads: «Do not rush to rob children of their teddy bears, who may know of any demons they protect them» .
As a child I was a little greasy Bobby domestic production, which, perhaps, he needed protection.When I went to bed, he lay next to the pillow, and he ought to kiss in the remains of the nose, so it does not get upset because of the lack of attention.We were quite a long time care for one another, until he was lost somewhere in time and space.
«Dropped the bear on the floor, torn bear paw.All the same, it will not give up, because it is - a good "What could be wrong with fidelity, constancy in the affections?And this tendency to personal qualities just formed at such an early age, when persistence of these same stuffed animals often replaces the children stability, predictability, and sometimes tenderness their adult relatives.
At the same time, and laid the tendency, for example, to sacrifice, suffering sweet, light sadness or sullen isolation .Maybe due to the nature vending once teddy friend someone since childhood tends to have only the brightest and the best, but someone very sweet little Bobby or abandoned bear with torn paws?
Watching the child's play, it is possible to draw conclusions about the level of child safely or internal comfort.For example, if a girl playing, first gently cradles the doll, then screams and batters her, and then, bursting into tears, comforted her, it can be assumed that she had the most experience and a fairly rough attitude.Or if the baby has a habit of ignoring the ban, missed thriftily any favorite item (the, alien, dangerous or fragile) and then forgets about it, when in sight there is something more vivid, again somethingenough and yells angrily if someone tries to take something, it can be assumed that it is a small home kinglet, accustomed to a common worship and humble service.Or maybe this tiranchiku still not too comfortable in his kingdom?Because the desire to bite formally take possession of the object, to demonstrate the apparent power, as a rule, it leads to broken relationships with real people, children and adults.And the spoil of the ownership does not bring satisfaction, because it simply replaces the inner need of the soul in the works, fantasy, communication, friendship, trust.
The way a child turns with their toys, we can judge how it will develop relationships with people. If valuable only the most expensive and bright toy, if its production by any means - from whining to extortion, and all toys are so many and they can crush, throw, lose, forget, you get used to such a relationship with the objects of affection, grownlittle child on a similar scheme will apply to people, used to injure, throw and forget, briefly carried away by a new bright acquisition.
I had a dear Bobby, and I am inclined to constancy in his affections.And to the people, and to the subjects.To the extent that it is difficult to force myself to bring the garbage and old stuff a long time is not right.For any subject - it's still a memory of something or someone ... Poor Plyushkin!I wonder what was his favorite toy?
And my children somehow have not developed a deep relationship with the toy world.Under their pillows you can find a cube, the stone, the chess knight.Sometimes a soft animal polkrovati takes three days, but then, like its predecessor, is moving to the couch.
I was worried, but then I thought that maybe they somehow missing each other and us with the pope for building habits of permanent attachment.Or just our demons have not crept up to us to such a dangerous distance, to call for help teddy bears?