The role of women in the family
Psychology / / August 12, 2017
According to French pharmacists, women now make three times more antidepressants, anxiolytics and hypnotics than fifteen years ago .What happens to us?
seems that we are losing the ability to catastrophic speed to be happy.Maybe it's a natural board for trying to succeed in everything?Some women, after giving birth, to easily give up their professional ambitions and enjoy his new status and social role.Another such change of status of a burden.In addition, the growth in life expectancy leads to the fact that mothers still quite a lot of time "for himself" after the children start independent life and do not require care.And then what will be the one that is completely dissolved in the Children?
Sitting at home and not lounging, women often suffer from a sense of its social 'uselessness ».Interests anyone working or student ( "engaged in business!") Household, as a rule, are considered more important than the desires and aspirations "homebody."Of course, it is easy to find words of comfort: "Being a h
«Out in the people" becomes a woman sat up at home the only way to restore peace of mind and self-esteem shattered .
But the woman works or not, no one will relieve it of responsibility for the welfare of the child.Therefore, a compromise - sometimes the only opportunity to combine work and child-rearing.
On the one hand, a woman has to shift part of the responsibility for education to nurses, grandmothers, kindergarten and leave the role of first violin in the impact on the child.On the other hand - deliberately limit the scope of professional claims to burn the work is not affected too adversely on the family.And certainly pushed away an image of housewives and homemakers.Hearthkindle have to continue to smolder by itself: someone from home, running past, will throw a sprig or two - and it is fine.
If a woman in such a situation is possible to maintain balance without falling too often, and not to hurt too painful, it is almost guaranteed a stable, or even a happy family life, a strong link with the outside world and some professional growth.At times she is dissatisfied with the quality of their work or the state of the house, or how she copes with the role of his wife.But at other times things are better, and it seems all the time to.Is this not a reason to be proud of yourself?
But if zhenschine- "mnogostanochnitse" fail to achieve the delicate balance, it is threatened by the same abyss of regret and disappointment that her "home" girlfriend.
be guilty Circle - an ordeal.A gloom - a terrible sin, and the real danger.And that's why.
usually the mother in the family - emotional leader, a man far less often sets the tone family atmosphere.And the most sensitive in the family, of course, the child not being able to build sophisticated reasoning, it just feels a general attitude.And often the general discouragement, depression, irritability, senior members of the family the child relates to his account and blames himself for our failures.
What can be advised to avoid such crises?
Do not think that the world revolves around you and everything around and just do what they keep a record of your misses.Do not treat yourself as a victim of circumstances or relatives.Remember that the victim is prone to tyranny!
Of course, all parents want their children to health, happiness, success ... But if a lot of happiness can pass "inherited" the mother is not able to feel happy?