If you want to have a baby
Psychology / / August 12, 2017
In our world today a woman's desire to have a child, when something natural and inevitable, it seems almost paradoxical.Otherwise as a result of the notorious female logic can not explain it.
Judge: ecology - awesome, the food - unnatural lifestyle is far from healthy .Working from morning to evening, the money always not enough housing is not too spacious, but a friend, a husband-partner is not always enough love and reliable.And in this material whirl women still give birth, combining this venture with their studies, career and quest for true love.Although it would be wiser to postpone or even cancel.
Someone eventually cancels, while remaining healthy, cheerful, self-sufficient and successful.But there are also those who are childless oppressed, who are tormented by the question «Why?» .
And sometimes find the answer to this question can again only include a little bit of female logic.And it is almost confirmed that the more inconsistent, intuitive modern woman, the more there that inexplicably
However, in fairness it should be noted that the infantile and frankly person, holders of so-called personal immaturity, "childishness" of consciousness too often faced with the inability to get pregnant as they wish.Psychologists explain it a habit to solve their problems at the expense of others - body just goes through a familiar and opposes to pregnancy , expecting that someone else will do everything for him.
Although no matter what the conditions dictated to us by modern life, the female body, as well as thousands of years ago, during the whole of their reproductive period (somewhere from 16 to 50 years) is set to procreation.And deceive him, offering a different load, and entertainment, is quite difficult.
Each month, ovulation occurs - and a few days all the women being anxiously waiting, accumulating stocks of blood, holding a liquid fabric softening.Then it becomes clear - this time broken off, the holiday will not be - and everything starts to take offense and wither.And for the disappointed expectations of a woman gets a headache from your body, lower back aches, insomnia, pimples and bad mood.
If self-deception lasts for years, exacerbated by revenge, "dance" hormones appear dysfunction, thrush, and inflammatory diseases. With them, irritability, anxiety, emotional lability, aggression.No wonder the experts concerned, studying women with so-called reproductive system disorders, certainly note that most of them, these psychological characteristics.
The older the woman, the more difficult it is to understand: it is difficult to conceive and bear a child because she is so nervous and painful or her health "pours" because of the fact that she did not give birth to .
Nowadays quite young creatures often manage to get women from chronic diseases.And of course, it affects the ability to subsequently successfully conceive, carry and give birth to a child.
But here's the strange thing: as the perfect health of the woman does not give her full guarantees of success and a long list of deviations does not put an end to the possibility of motherhood.Outwardly it looks like the case in some peculiar luck.Indeed, many women successfully give birth and after an ectopic pregnancy, and without chimney, and with one ovary, and with serious hormonal disturbances, and after a series of abortions, finally.And other beauties and clever, all that is not glued ...
From a searcher for meaning in life, I learned a theory that people are divided into life "Excellent" and "Losers".With the "standouts" in school, demand better fate.A "Losers" higher power support already for the mere fact hatched goodwill and stretched even chetverochku.
Maintain reputation "excellent pupil" is a large concentration of effort and energy to spend on it unprofitable.Too responsible woman can do to bring yourself samoedstva similarity to self-destruct.
psychologists explain it this way.If motherhood for a woman is something definitely high value, then it can start to worry, whether it is worth such a high honor, it is not too bad for her if she could be a good mother .That is it, "and want, and scary."The resulting so intrapersonal conflict at a subconscious level can "resolves" the body by "non-pregnant" or "miscarriage".
And in the case of habits of responsible woman to solve all the problems in the family at their own expense she can unconsciously punish themselves for the possibility of occurrence in her life or in the lives of her loved ones some disorders (eg, it failed at the right time to become pregnant or wrong "fly "when not).Docile body starts to give a series of serious diseases.Various ailments last and multiply, undermining forces, without succumbing to the treatment, or constantly sharpening, once again proving to her and others that it can not be a mother.At the same time at the level of consciousness of a woman can truly suffer because of not coming motherhood.
Of course, many women's difficulties are put back in childhood.Complicated relationships growing up women with loved ones are always considered by experts as a possible cause of its problems in the own family.It is believed that if the girl in the period from birth to puberty experienced serious psychological trauma associated with the peculiarities of its relationship with a significant adult for her, or if she has had to play the role of mother to the younger children in the family, she may unconsciously resist recreating inhis adult life experienced childhood hardship.
Another little girl, for whatever reason, may form a negative image mother.Maybe her mother was somehow especially damaging cold or vice versa temperamental, and therefore, gathering with age mind and my own experience, my daughter with all my being wants to be like her.Then, growing up, she may subconsciously give up the role of the mother, not to be like my mom.
negative image - a loose concept.Psychoanalyst one of my friend saw the root of all its misfortunes in the fact that when she was two or three months, my mother did with his hands constantly to her extremely painful massage to get rid of torticollis.With torticollis mother coped heroically.But my daughter, then in my mother's need to protect and receive instead of her pain, was forced at an older age seriously deal with their "cockroaches".In another case, Mom, seriously gone through a divorce, with the best intentions to set up a daughter to the spirit that is necessary to obtain standing specialty, then to itself to make money and support their children when their dad throw.It certainly taught the daughter of independence.And programming the inevitable divorce.And the type of behavior, "I and the horse, I and a bull."And the bulls are not known to give birth ...
Many peoples have a tradition for pregnant women before delivery to make peace with his enemies and offenders to anything it is not pressed, nothing is paralyzed, did not prevent the free open in the most importantfor her time.Unlikely to cause disputes the assertion that labor is better to go with a light heart.But it is possible that for some women is just as important to shake off the dust of the past and to the desired conception, to stand between them and their kids any conceivable barriers.
As a rule, if a problem exists, it feeds a number of reasons.It is difficult sometimes to decide what is the main obstacle on the path to happiness.But it is clear that to clear this path is always necessary to start - it's easier to find the right direction.
Sometimes, to refract the situation, rather very small - for example, make a habit to go to bed on time to sleep (normal hormones), or ensure that the feet are kept warm (down with colds!), Or to smile more (stabilizes the nervoussystem).
Following smile often come in a good mood, and behind it and good health.Disappears hunting to point fingers and to engage in self-flagellation.You begin to live simply.
Then, you see, turn at the right time is the most "female logic" and ...
12 Aug, 2017